Anger is a universal emotion, but expressing it healthily is challenging, even for adults.

Children, however, often struggle more with managing their frustration and may resort to bursts of irritation or aggression. This has left many parents questioning whether their child's behavior is normal.

Experts point to several factors contributing to increased aggression in children. These include frustration over unmet desires or denied requests. Additionally, children dealing with psychological conditions like ADHD, autism, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or Tourette's syndrome may be more prone to anger outbursts.

The Role of Genetics and Environment
Genetics and biology play a significant role in shaping a child's behavior. Environmental factors such as trauma, family dysfunction, and certain parenting styles—especially harsh or punitive ones—can further fuel aggression. Research suggests that genes influence temperament, the behavioral traits that appear early in life, accounting for 20-60% of its variability, as shown by twin and adoption studies.

Children and teens display aggression differently from adults. In addition to physical behaviors like kicking, hitting, and pushing, aggression in children might include:

Violent tantrums
1. Provoking peers through insults
2. Threatening harm
3. Misusing objects as weapons
4. Hurting animals
5. Damaging property
6. Lying or stealing

Shaping a Child's Behavior
1. Teach the Rules: Clearly communicate family rules and behavioral expectations.
2. Encourage Expression: Create an environment where children feel safe expressing their emotions without fear of judgment.
3. Avoid Threats: Rather than using threats, offer alternative behaviors and briefly ignore minor misbehaviors.
4. Praise Good Behavior: Recognize and compliment good discipline to encourage positive behavior.
5. Use Healthy Distractions: Redirect your child's attention when you see signs of frustration or anger.
6. Model Good Behavior: Set a positive example by managing your own anger in healthy ways.

Helping children navigate their emotions through understanding and guidance can reduce aggressive behaviors over time.